Strength from the milk (literally) of human kindness

About an hour ago I realized that it was 4:00 p.m. and I still hadn't eaten today. That's a problem because A)I'm recovering from major surgery B) Lillian threw us a curve ball last night and stayed up until 5 a.m. (I know how many of you can relate to that) and C)I'm trying to figure out how to feed this child and I know that starving, stressed out mama=starving stressed out baby.

Welcome to the madness, right?

In the midst of realizing I was starving, I also remembered that my dear friend, Kristin, had brought over some soup and corn bread last night. I ran and got some, heated it up, and returned to bed. My blessed mother-in-law promised to keep the baby entertained so Trent and I could get some rest. He was drifting in and out of sleep when he realized I was crying over the cornbread.

I know, it's sort of funny, crying over cornbread, and I know that the humor lies in how totally emotional volatile you become post-pregnancy. But really, I wasn't crying because of hormones. Well, maybe I was just a leetle bit, but it was bigger than that.

In a moment, that cornbread somehow took on a symbolic significance. I started thinking of the multiple kindnesses I've received from others in the past week. Some have come from people like nurses and doctors who didn't even know me but took went the extra mile anyway in my care and the baby's. Some kindnesses have come from friends who have taken the time to call or email or share in the joy of this moment.

And some acts of kindness have been left me speechless at the grace at which they are rendered. Kristin didn't just bring dinner last night; when she saw me in my moment of crisis, she stayed in the baby nursery with me until late at night, providing tips and insight. At the most difficult moment, she found a washcloth in our linen closet, rinsed it in cool water, and gently washed my face as I fed Lillian. When my sister Sara was here she acted similarly during a moment of total vulnerability when I couldn't take care of myself--she did. The love she manifested in that moment made both of us cry.

People who act like that are, in a moment, stepping in for the Savior, acting as He would and loving as He does.

And so, I cried as I ate that wonderful cornbread, cried tears of total gratitude for the acts of grace in the last week that have taught me what empathy, love, and compassion are. I don't think I've ever served anyone in the ways that I have been so tenderly and lovingly served. But I think that empathy like I have been shown is earned; those who show it do so because they have been down this path before.

I promise, from here on out, I will do the same. But I just had to say how utterly humbly thankful I am.


Gotta go. Kristin just showed up with more food.

Comments

Camille said…
When I read the part about her washing your face, I just started bawling. And now I can't stop. That's what the Savior asked us to do. He washed His disciples feet, and asked us to do the same for each other, in a variety of ways. Oh liz I wish I could be there for you, too. Please know that I'm thinking of you every minute and wondering what new things you're experiencing right now. I'm so happy for you. I hope you get some sleep. Easier said than done, right? Wink wink.

xoxo
Sara Boulter said…
I love you sweet Liz. Really, truly I do. I cannot tell you what it meant to me to be there with you in the hours that followed her birth. Thank you again for allowing me that gift of taking care of you. It was one of the sweetest days of my life.

Also this: Liiiiiiillllly! :)
AD said…
Thanks for sharing. I feel for you...so many emotions, so many new experiences, so many, many wonderful people. I'm so glad you have so many loving people in your life to help you through this time. Keep sharing so I can vicariously relive it all through you, okay?
Diane said…
Those emotions that come with a sweet new baby are so deep and so real. I am so excited for all the experiences you are having in your life right now. (Well, maybe not the sleep deprivation but it sounds like your sisters are also sharing that with you!) What a sweet post that was. Made me think about all those in my life who serve so selflessly.
Anaise said…
No matter how precious the baby is, the first couple of weeks post-partum are sooooo hard! What a blessing for you to recognize God's love for you as His children act as His emissaries on your behalf. Beautifully expressed testimony, Liz.
Karina said…
I can sooo relate to being served lately (like the whole past year), and I am forever changed for the better because of it. I'm now super-sensitive to other new moms and do all I can to help. My neighbor who just had a baby probably thinks I'm nosy 'cause we just barely moved here, but I really just want to help her all I can. Such a special, special time of life! Congratulations!

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